In this blog, I am sharing 10 signs of a self-confident woman, including some things that confident people donโt do.
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Ten Signs Of A Self-Confident Woman. Share on XToday we are talking about confidence, specifically, the signs that I have seen both in myself, in my own journey from crippling self-doubt to really just liking myself and approving of what Iโm doing, as well as what Iโve seen in my clients as theyโve made that same journey.
This isnโt an exhaustive list, but it is the things that Iโve seen over and over.
What I want you to do in the comments is to write out the number 1 โ 10, and Iโm going to have you take notes on whether or not youโre โnailing itโ, โworking on itโ, or maybe โtotally floppingโ right now.
The reason that I want you to do this actually ties into the first of these 10 signs of a self-confident woman.
SIGN #1: SHE ADMITS HER WEAKNESSES AND HER MISTAKES
One of the first signs of a self-confident woman is that sheโs not afraid to admit both her mistakes and her weaknesses.
Self-confidence is really about liking yourself and approving of yourself. If you like and approve of yourself youโre not going to worry about making a mistake or doing something wrong because you know that it doesnโt make who you are wrong.
SIGN #2: SHE TAKES CARE OF HERSELF
Number two, she takes care of herself and she does it without apologizing and without justifying her actions or her needs.
A confident woman knows that her needs are legitimate and that she has value and worth, and that itโs okay to take time out for herself every single day, every single week, and maybe even every single month or every quarter to meet those needs.
And because she knows that she is inherently worthy and inherently valuable, she feels no need to justify that to other people or explain or apologize to people as to why she canโt do what they want her to do because she needs to first take care of herself.
SIGN #3: SHE SAYS โI DONโT KNOWโ WITH EASE
Number three, she doesnโt feel awkward about saying โI donโt know.โ
This comes from my own personal experiences. I used to have such a hard time not having all of the answers and feeling like to be worthy or to be good enough I had to know everything.
But you know what? A lack of knowledge doesnโt indicate a lack of self-worth.
A lack of knowledge doesn't indicate a lack of self-worth. (Tara Wagner) Share on XItโs impossible for any of us to know everything, or to have our hands in everything, or to have read every book, or to know every person out there.
Itโs actually okay for us to say โI donโt know.โ
When youโre confident in yourself and you know your self-worth, you donโt feel uncomfortable saying that anymore. Because, again, you know that a lack of knowledge or experience with something doesnโt correlate to your self-worth.
SIGN #4: SHEโLL GO PLACES WITHOUT MAKEUP
Number four, she will go places without makeup on.
I think thatโs about all I have to say about that one.
SIGN #5 OF A CONFIDENT WOMAN: SHE LAUGHS AT HERSELF
Number five is she laughs at herself.
She doesnโt take herself too seriously because sheโs not sitting here criticizing and analyzing every stinking thing she is doing.
So when she doesnโt know something, or when she has a weakness, or when she makes a mistake, or when she goes to the grocery store without makeup on and runs into the most influential person she could ever want to meet, she can laugh about it because she knows that itโs really not that big of a deal. And, again, it doesnโt relate to who she is.
SIGN #6: SHE DOESNโT CARE WHAT OTHERS THINK
Number six, and this is a biggie and it takes a lot of time and practice to get here, but she doesnโt care what other people think.
Now, this doesnโt mean that she doesnโt value their opinions or that other people donโt matter; she just knows that the first thing that matters is what she thinks of herself, and if sheโs loving and approving of herself, she no longer needs other people to love and approve of her.
A confident woman doesn't care what others think. She still values other's opinions, but she knows the first thing that matters is what she thinks of herself. (Tara Wagner) Share on XYou will know that you love and approve of yourself by how much validation youโre looking for in your likes, in your comments, and in the praise that youโre getting from other people.
If you love what youโre doing, you believe in yourself, and you feel good about who you are, youโre no longer going to worry about the people who may not view you the same way because you donโt need them to anymore.
SIGN #7: SHE DOESNโT TALK SMACK
The seventh sign of a confident woman is that she will not criticize or gossip about other women.
In fact, she will usually even stop it from happening in her presence.
This is because if you feel good about who you are, you have no desire to tear other people down.
Itโs only hurting people that hurt people. And, likewise, it is only self-critical people that criticize others.
It's only hurting people that hurt people. And, likewise, it is only self-critical people that criticize others. (Tara Wagner) Share on XSIGN #8 OF A CONFIDENT WOMAN: SHE LIFTS OTHERS UP
Sign #7 ties into sign #8, which is if sheโs not tearing people down itโs because sheโs busy lifting others up.
This is because when you feel good about who you are, youโre no longer intimidated by the power, success, or the brightness of other people, in fact, you love it!
I have seen this time and time again in women who have gone from self-doubt or self-criticism to love and approval of who they are. They take others with them. Theyโre excited, thereโs so much love, light, and joy on their face, and they are encouraging others to do the same thing, to take the same path that they took.
SIGN #9: SHE TREATS OTHERS WITH RESPECT
And #8 also kind of leads into #9, which is she is treating other people with respect, even if they may not deserve it based on their own bad behavior at that moment.
Now, this doesnโt mean that she doesnโt have boundaries; homegirl has boundaries, but when you like yourself, trust me, you donโt let anybody else harm you if youโre not harming you first.
But even if somebody is disrespecting you, you still have self-respect, and so youโre treating other people how you might want to be treated if you were having a really bad day, or acting out, or lashing out at somebody, knowing that theyโre still humans, theyโre going to make mistakes too.
You can have those boundaries and still be respectful to other people.
Youโre doing this as much for yourself as you are for them. Because a person with self-respect wants to treat others kindly because of who they are, not because of who someone else is.
A person with self-respect wants to treat others kindly because of who they are, not because of who someone else is. (Tara Wagner) Share on XThis means that when you love yourself and you know that youโre good enough, but somebody else comes up and tries to treat you as though youโre not, if youโre not still holding on to that place inside of yourself that says, โI might not be good enough,โ their behavior is not going to bother you because you no longer have that sore spot. They canโt push something that doesnโt exist.
And when they try, because it doesnโt exist, you donโt feel the need to defend that or protect that sore spot because itโs not there anymore.
You love yourself! You think youโre amazing! You donโt have a big ego, you know you have weaknesses, you know you make mistakes, you know you donโt know everything, but you still like who you are and what youโre here to do or what youโre about.
So somebody that comes along and theyโre being a total butthole to you, itโs not going to bother you that much, youโre going to be like, โOkay, go on with your bad day.โ Itโs just not going to be the thing that throws you off because they can only trigger you, again, if you hold a trigger.
Someone else can only trigger you if you hold a trigger. (Tara Wagner) Share on XSIGN #10: SHE REALIZES SHE WONโT ALWAYS FEEL CONFIDENT
Okay, I know Iโm kind of up on my soapbox so let me come down just a little tiny bit and share with you the 10th sign of a self-confident woman.
She realizes that she wonโt always feel confident, and she wonโt always feel happy, and she might not always like everything sheโs doing, and she might have moments where sheโs criticizing herself, but that says nothing about WHO SHE IS.
And hereโs what I mean by this:
Youโre going to have bad days because youโre human. But in the back of your mind, if youโre truly in a healthy place, if youโre truly loving and approving of yourself, youโre always going to know that this is a bad day, not a bad life; that this is a bad moment, not a bad person.
Because when you really love yourself, you know that youโre still going to be human and you approve and love of that aspect too.
A confident woman knows a bad day is not a bad life, and a bad moment doesn't make a bad person. (Tara Wagner) Share on XIF YOU WANT TO START THE PROCESS (OR MAYBE EVEN JUST SMOOTH AND IMPROVE THE PROCESS) OF PERSONAL GROWTH, OF GETTING FROM THAT PLACE OF SELF-DOUBT TO SELF-CONFIDENCE, I WANT YOU TO GRAB MY BOTTLENECKS TO BREAKTHROUGHS TRAINING.
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WHAT ABOUT YOU, BOSS LADY?
I hope that you were taking notes so that you can drop those in the comments along with any other signs of a confident woman that youโve seen either in your own life or in the lives of other people that you truly admire.
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